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- What is sober living?
- Are all sober houses the same / legit?
- How do I avoid illegitimate sober houses?
- How is Into Action different than a "flop house" / illegitimate 'sober house'?
- What are your 12 step requirements?
- What do I have to do to get in?
- What does 'structured environment' mean?
- Are there rules?
- How long does it take to get moved in?
- Are all sober houses the same / legit?
- How do I avoid illegitimate sober houses?
- How is Into Action different than a "flop house" / illegitimate 'sober house'?
- What are your 12 step requirements?
- What do I have to do to get in?
- What does 'structured environment' mean?
- Are there rules?
- How long does it take to get moved in?
What is Sober Living?
A sober living home simply put, is a house where individuals addicted to drugs or alcohol are now actively living a sober life and have decided to come live together for that shared purpose. Based on a weekly price, everything from bills to toilet paper are provided to members. It acts as a stepping stone for those who have few resources.
Additionally, in our opinion, a reputable sober living home also includes:
- Real and very regular oversight, structure, and accountability.
- 2:1 bedroom ratio (meaning a max of two people per bedroom).
- Enough bedrooms that the house manager has a single bedroom.
- 4:1 or less bathroom ratio
- 4:1 or less refrigerator ratio
- 5:1 or less entertainment area.
- Proper maintenance and care of the house.
- Regular visits and inspections from staff not living in the house.
- Onsite house manager who actively engage those living in the house.
- A minimum of testing members weekly for drugs and alcohol.
- Sobriety minimum standards, such as members having verified meeting attendance, regular work with a sponsor, and regular progress on 12 step work.
A sober living home simply put, is a house where individuals addicted to drugs or alcohol are now actively living a sober life and have decided to come live together for that shared purpose. Based on a weekly price, everything from bills to toilet paper are provided to members. It acts as a stepping stone for those who have few resources.
Additionally, in our opinion, a reputable sober living home also includes:
- Real and very regular oversight, structure, and accountability.
- 2:1 bedroom ratio (meaning a max of two people per bedroom).
- Enough bedrooms that the house manager has a single bedroom.
- 4:1 or less bathroom ratio
- 4:1 or less refrigerator ratio
- 5:1 or less entertainment area.
- Proper maintenance and care of the house.
- Regular visits and inspections from staff not living in the house.
- Onsite house manager who actively engage those living in the house.
- A minimum of testing members weekly for drugs and alcohol.
- Sobriety minimum standards, such as members having verified meeting attendance, regular work with a sponsor, and regular progress on 12 step work.
Are all sober houses the same? And are they all legit?
There are unfortunately numerous houses which range from questionable at best, to downright drug den / flop houses trying to skirt landlord tenant law. So be careful. So no, they are not all the same.
How do I avoid "flop house" / low quality 'sober' houses?
1. Make sure you are welcome and able to thoroughly research the house you’re considering and ask as many questions as you have without issue. And of course, that you are comfortable with the answers.
2. Do they meet your goals? Is it "just a place to live around other sober people"? Or is it truly focused on moving into a sobriety lifestyle, ranging from basics like the house remaining clean to it's members actively and maturing in their sobriety? Are you the type of person that when you get honest with yourself, needs accountability? Or are you 100% a self-starter who already knows they have all the tools necessary for sobriety success?
3. Find out the major requirements of the house's rules. If you at all feel like you will not be able to comply, then do not move in as that will place you AND the house in an unfair position.
4. Will they allow you to see the house in advance or meet other members to get an idea of what life there is really like?
5. Do they have any limitations on who they let in? What are those limitations? What is their policy on medications with potential for abuse or medications required for those with serious mental health needs. You should be comfortable living around the type of people a house allows in, so make sure you understand the types of people they allow and perhaps more importantly, who they don't allow.
There are unfortunately numerous houses which range from questionable at best, to downright drug den / flop houses trying to skirt landlord tenant law. So be careful. So no, they are not all the same.
How do I avoid "flop house" / low quality 'sober' houses?
1. Make sure you are welcome and able to thoroughly research the house you’re considering and ask as many questions as you have without issue. And of course, that you are comfortable with the answers.
2. Do they meet your goals? Is it "just a place to live around other sober people"? Or is it truly focused on moving into a sobriety lifestyle, ranging from basics like the house remaining clean to it's members actively and maturing in their sobriety? Are you the type of person that when you get honest with yourself, needs accountability? Or are you 100% a self-starter who already knows they have all the tools necessary for sobriety success?
3. Find out the major requirements of the house's rules. If you at all feel like you will not be able to comply, then do not move in as that will place you AND the house in an unfair position.
4. Will they allow you to see the house in advance or meet other members to get an idea of what life there is really like?
5. Do they have any limitations on who they let in? What are those limitations? What is their policy on medications with potential for abuse or medications required for those with serious mental health needs. You should be comfortable living around the type of people a house allows in, so make sure you understand the types of people they allow and perhaps more importantly, who they don't allow.
I've lived at other "sober” houses before, but they weren’t very sober and living there was not optimal for recovery. Is this different?
It’s import to us that it is understood that Action House is NOT a “flop house”. This means we do not simply cram people together, call it a sober house, and collect weekly fees. We can't stress this enough. If you're looking for a place to simply crash, rest up, "just hang around other sober people", "to please the judge", or similar reason then Into Action may not be for you.
Our purpose is to assist those, who look at their sobriety as a life and death situation and are willing to live like they mean it. If the goal is to successfully recover and rebuild your life, then we're a great tool to help assist you in that. So if you're looking for a nice place to live, be active in your own recovery, agree to get along with others, and work within the structure of the house, then this is the place for you.
It’s import to us that it is understood that Action House is NOT a “flop house”. This means we do not simply cram people together, call it a sober house, and collect weekly fees. We can't stress this enough. If you're looking for a place to simply crash, rest up, "just hang around other sober people", "to please the judge", or similar reason then Into Action may not be for you.
Our purpose is to assist those, who look at their sobriety as a life and death situation and are willing to live like they mean it. If the goal is to successfully recover and rebuild your life, then we're a great tool to help assist you in that. So if you're looking for a nice place to live, be active in your own recovery, agree to get along with others, and work within the structure of the house, then this is the place for you.
I understand that Into Action requires house members to work the 12 steps?
When someone choses to live at an Into Action home, they're saying, "I need help and accountability getting my life back together. Will you please provide that?" And in our experience, those who are actively working the 12 steps to the best of their ability are the ones who not only stay sober, but build a habitual sobriety based lifestyle, and reap the rewards of spiritual growth. Therefore, we do require (and verify) that people attend minimum numbers of 12 step meetings, obtain AND USE a sponsor, and make regular progress on the 12 steps while being a member of Into Action.
When someone choses to live at an Into Action home, they're saying, "I need help and accountability getting my life back together. Will you please provide that?" And in our experience, those who are actively working the 12 steps to the best of their ability are the ones who not only stay sober, but build a habitual sobriety based lifestyle, and reap the rewards of spiritual growth. Therefore, we do require (and verify) that people attend minimum numbers of 12 step meetings, obtain AND USE a sponsor, and make regular progress on the 12 steps while being a member of Into Action.
What are the requirements for being accepted
1. First and foremost, all residents must confirm they are addicted to alcohol and/or drugs + be at a place in life where their sobriety at the top of their list.
2. Must no longer be in danger of going through withdrawal symptoms.
3. Agree to attending AA meetings, getting a sponsor, using the sponsor, and working the 12 steps.
4. Must be willing to hold a job for at least 30 hours per week. If they don't have a job, then they will be required to job hunt 40 hours per week (other activities like IOP, court, and other legitimate appointments are allowed to be part of that 40 hour "job hunting" schedule.
5. Must submit to drug and alcohol testing at will.
6. May not be on medications with potential for abuse. While we do allow antidepressants, we draw the line there and do not allow mental health medications such as anti-psychotics, anti-schizophrenic medications, etc. We simply feel we are not setup to deal with individuals with these very serious mental health conditions and our main purpose is to provide (and protect) the house from pitential drama, danger, etc.
7. No violent, sexual, or arson based felony convictions.
8. Commit to writing an approved goals contract and staying until those goals are completed.
9. Must want to live in a structured living environment where accountability between both managers and other house members is required.
10. Must obtain a telephone with the ability to send photo based texts. This is one of the primary methods we use for accountability, especially for new guys, at our houses. Example: If a new guy is out job hunting, how do we know he is not really just sitting at his friends house watching TV all day? Easy, when he says he is at Pizza Hut putting in an application, he also texts us a photo showing us his filled out Pizza Hut application, and with Pizza Hut clearly visible in the background. So now we know he is doing exactly what he is reporting.
1. First and foremost, all residents must confirm they are addicted to alcohol and/or drugs + be at a place in life where their sobriety at the top of their list.
2. Must no longer be in danger of going through withdrawal symptoms.
3. Agree to attending AA meetings, getting a sponsor, using the sponsor, and working the 12 steps.
4. Must be willing to hold a job for at least 30 hours per week. If they don't have a job, then they will be required to job hunt 40 hours per week (other activities like IOP, court, and other legitimate appointments are allowed to be part of that 40 hour "job hunting" schedule.
5. Must submit to drug and alcohol testing at will.
6. May not be on medications with potential for abuse. While we do allow antidepressants, we draw the line there and do not allow mental health medications such as anti-psychotics, anti-schizophrenic medications, etc. We simply feel we are not setup to deal with individuals with these very serious mental health conditions and our main purpose is to provide (and protect) the house from pitential drama, danger, etc.
7. No violent, sexual, or arson based felony convictions.
8. Commit to writing an approved goals contract and staying until those goals are completed.
9. Must want to live in a structured living environment where accountability between both managers and other house members is required.
10. Must obtain a telephone with the ability to send photo based texts. This is one of the primary methods we use for accountability, especially for new guys, at our houses. Example: If a new guy is out job hunting, how do we know he is not really just sitting at his friends house watching TV all day? Easy, when he says he is at Pizza Hut putting in an application, he also texts us a photo showing us his filled out Pizza Hut application, and with Pizza Hut clearly visible in the background. So now we know he is doing exactly what he is reporting.
Is this a structured environment? Am I free to come and go? Or is it more like a treatment center, medical facility, or even jail?
"Yes", it is a structured sober living environment, but it is absolutely not a treatment center or medical facility. Sober living is a family-like dwelling in which members live with other alcoholics / addicts who are absolutely committed to remaining sober and strengthening that sobriety. Provided you are fulfilling your duties and responsibilities you are free to come and go as you please within the curfew limitations.
"Yes", it is a structured sober living environment, but it is absolutely not a treatment center or medical facility. Sober living is a family-like dwelling in which members live with other alcoholics / addicts who are absolutely committed to remaining sober and strengthening that sobriety. Provided you are fulfilling your duties and responsibilities you are free to come and go as you please within the curfew limitations.
Are there rules?
Like any structured environment, there are rules for members. These serve as a way to help the individuals succeed and protect the safety and sanctity of the house.
Like any structured environment, there are rules for members. These serve as a way to help the individuals succeed and protect the safety and sanctity of the house.
How long will it take for me to go through the process and start living at Action House?
It could be as quick as the same day. It totally depends upon each perspective member's circumstances, time of day, availability of house managers to perform intakes, etc.
It could be as quick as the same day. It totally depends upon each perspective member's circumstances, time of day, availability of house managers to perform intakes, etc.
How much does it cost?
It costs $110 per week. That includes everything except your food, toiletries, and clothing (furnishings, bedding, bills, many daily supplies, and more).
There is also a one-time move in cost of $145 ( that covers the following:
$110: First Week
$110: Security Deposit (Refundable provided you give us 14 days notice)
$30: Background Check (only checking for violent, sexual, and arson based felony convictions)
It costs $110 per week. That includes everything except your food, toiletries, and clothing (furnishings, bedding, bills, many daily supplies, and more).
There is also a one-time move in cost of $145 ( that covers the following:
$110: First Week
$110: Security Deposit (Refundable provided you give us 14 days notice)
$30: Background Check (only checking for violent, sexual, and arson based felony convictions)
I'm considering helping a friend/family member get in. Should I help them financially?
We feel it's fine to assist someone financially PROVIDED:
- You make it crystal clear that this is their one shot for assistance. Otherwise they know they can relapse and then come back to you again and again.
- We suggest only assisting them one week at a time, checking in with us on their progress, and if you receive a good report to then consider if you are willing to help them another week or not.
- Financial assistance should be for a limited time only. Here is a general example: 1 week to find a job for non-felons. 2 weeks to find work for felons. Another 1/2 to 1 week to begin the job. 3 weeks to collect their first full paycheck (as oftentimes the first paycheck is only partial or delayed by one paycheck. 2 more weeks to stabilize. TOTAL: 6-8 weeks total. This is only a rough model as every situation is different.
The truth is that they'll be obtaining financial assistance one way or the other whether it's from friends/family or through house credit. Though the difference for the new member is that they will often experience less stress if the assistance is through friends/family. The reason is that once they obtain a job, they will be expected to aggressively pay back the house loan. The house is not state subsidized and receives no sponsorship. Therefore, in order for the house to be self supporting and be able to also assist the next individual that come along, the house expects the member to begin aggressively paying back the house loan as soon as they begin collecting a paycheck. Otherwise the house is unable to cover expenses nor is able to then extend the same credit to the next new member in need who comes along.
We feel it's fine to assist someone financially PROVIDED:
- You make it crystal clear that this is their one shot for assistance. Otherwise they know they can relapse and then come back to you again and again.
- We suggest only assisting them one week at a time, checking in with us on their progress, and if you receive a good report to then consider if you are willing to help them another week or not.
- Financial assistance should be for a limited time only. Here is a general example: 1 week to find a job for non-felons. 2 weeks to find work for felons. Another 1/2 to 1 week to begin the job. 3 weeks to collect their first full paycheck (as oftentimes the first paycheck is only partial or delayed by one paycheck. 2 more weeks to stabilize. TOTAL: 6-8 weeks total. This is only a rough model as every situation is different.
The truth is that they'll be obtaining financial assistance one way or the other whether it's from friends/family or through house credit. Though the difference for the new member is that they will often experience less stress if the assistance is through friends/family. The reason is that once they obtain a job, they will be expected to aggressively pay back the house loan. The house is not state subsidized and receives no sponsorship. Therefore, in order for the house to be self supporting and be able to also assist the next individual that come along, the house expects the member to begin aggressively paying back the house loan as soon as they begin collecting a paycheck. Otherwise the house is unable to cover expenses nor is able to then extend the same credit to the next new member in need who comes along.
Do you accept insurance / Are you state subsidized? Meaning, is there a way I can get in for free?
No. We are not state funded. And all sober living in OKC - that we know of anyway - requires private based payments from their members.
No. We are not state funded. And all sober living in OKC - that we know of anyway - requires private based payments from their members.
Do you provide financial assistance because I can't afford to get started! I just need a chance please.
Yes, we do have options for financial assistance. However, first we wish to explain that members are only accepted provided they are able to prove to the house that they are going to take our program seriously. This is to ensure that our existing members will have an optimally healthy sober living environment.
Qualification Options for Financial Assistance
The house will offer credit to those in need PROVIDED:
You have no job but are able to make the initial first weeks payment which also includes a one time move in fee.
Option B:
You successfully discharge from a qualified detox or treatment center and move directly into one of our sober houses. Your form of ‘collateral’ is that you’ve proactively taken measurable steps to show your serious about your recovery. *To determine if the detox or treatment center you are attending is approved, please contact us at 405-757-7671. To Detox / Treatment Centers: You are also welcome to contact us in advance pre-approval.
Option C:
You have some form of qualifying legal accountability. Examples include being in drug court, have an ankle monitor, having a parole/probation officer, court ordered to sober living, etc. Basically, your form of ‘collateral’ is that if you don’t take it seriously, we will report that to the appropriate party (the D.A., your P.O., drug court, etc.) and you will wind up in trouble with the law.
Option D:
You have:
- A verifiable job and a trustworthy period of active sobriety that includes at least 1 month clean and sober, (“trustworthy” Example: A sponsor, or prior house manager, minister, etc. verifies you’ve been clean and regularly attending meeting that long.)
- You have no job, but a verifiable period of active sobriety of at least 90 days.
Option E:
You are able to put up an initial form of personal property based collateral (Example: Tools, guitar, etc.) that is approximately equivalent to the first week’s balance. Upon getting caught up, you will receive your collateral back.
Loan Repayment Requirements:
Member will be required to do the following to continue living with house debt:
What if I don't qualify under any of the previous options?
To those who do not qualify under one of these methods, we wish to say that we understand you are in a difficult financial position. However, we also must protect the health of the house. Therefore we can only recommend that if you're truly serious enough about your sobriety and gaining membership into our sober living that you'll do what it takes to qualify. Once you qualify, you can then rest easy knowing that you're in a safe environment where every member has a stake in taking it seriously.
Yes, we do have options for financial assistance. However, first we wish to explain that members are only accepted provided they are able to prove to the house that they are going to take our program seriously. This is to ensure that our existing members will have an optimally healthy sober living environment.
Qualification Options for Financial Assistance
The house will offer credit to those in need PROVIDED:
- The applicant agrees to follow all directions fully and without any negative attitude, and whether directed by house managers and/or higher phased members.
- The applicant qualifies for financial assistance under one of the options listed below.
You have no job but are able to make the initial first weeks payment which also includes a one time move in fee.
Option B:
You successfully discharge from a qualified detox or treatment center and move directly into one of our sober houses. Your form of ‘collateral’ is that you’ve proactively taken measurable steps to show your serious about your recovery. *To determine if the detox or treatment center you are attending is approved, please contact us at 405-757-7671. To Detox / Treatment Centers: You are also welcome to contact us in advance pre-approval.
Option C:
You have some form of qualifying legal accountability. Examples include being in drug court, have an ankle monitor, having a parole/probation officer, court ordered to sober living, etc. Basically, your form of ‘collateral’ is that if you don’t take it seriously, we will report that to the appropriate party (the D.A., your P.O., drug court, etc.) and you will wind up in trouble with the law.
Option D:
You have:
- A verifiable job and a trustworthy period of active sobriety that includes at least 1 month clean and sober, (“trustworthy” Example: A sponsor, or prior house manager, minister, etc. verifies you’ve been clean and regularly attending meeting that long.)
- You have no job, but a verifiable period of active sobriety of at least 90 days.
Option E:
You are able to put up an initial form of personal property based collateral (Example: Tools, guitar, etc.) that is approximately equivalent to the first week’s balance. Upon getting caught up, you will receive your collateral back.
Loan Repayment Requirements:
Member will be required to do the following to continue living with house debt:
- Obtain a minimum of 35 hours per week at one or more jobs as well as be able to afford the weekly membership fee plus being able to pay off previous debt in a reasonable amount of time. (Generally considered 1-3 months depending on their pay). Sign up for state sponsored food program ("food stamps" aka SNAP)
- Create a detailed budget to determine payback strategy / amount.
- Provide proof of employment.
- Submit a copy of each paycheck to the house manager the day they receive the payment.
- Submit loan payment the same day as the paycheck is received.
- If paid bi-weekly, then two weeks worth of the loan repayment shall be paid at the same time.
What if I don't qualify under any of the previous options?
To those who do not qualify under one of these methods, we wish to say that we understand you are in a difficult financial position. However, we also must protect the health of the house. Therefore we can only recommend that if you're truly serious enough about your sobriety and gaining membership into our sober living that you'll do what it takes to qualify. Once you qualify, you can then rest easy knowing that you're in a safe environment where every member has a stake in taking it seriously.
What if I'm on disability and can't work?
Everyone is our house must work a minimum of 30 hours per week (those living on house credit (i.e. debt owed to house) must work a minimum of 35 hours per week). HOWEVER, for non-house debt members, we count traditional employment, schooling, and/or some form of verifiable volunteer work as "work". Part of the strength in our house is due to our members being active. If we suddenly have everyone but one person being active while the one sits around the house all day, we're asking for a relapse, and one that will likely take others down with him.
Everyone is our house must work a minimum of 30 hours per week (those living on house credit (i.e. debt owed to house) must work a minimum of 35 hours per week). HOWEVER, for non-house debt members, we count traditional employment, schooling, and/or some form of verifiable volunteer work as "work". Part of the strength in our house is due to our members being active. If we suddenly have everyone but one person being active while the one sits around the house all day, we're asking for a relapse, and one that will likely take others down with him.
What medications do you allow?
Members may not be take, fill, have in their possession, or otherwise be around any medications with potential for abuse. While we do allow antidepressants, we draw the line there and do not allow mental health medications such as anti-psychotics, anti-schizophrenic medications, etc. We feel our first priority is to maintain a sober house with the best overall quality, the lowest level of "drama", and lowest chance of incident. Therefore, we simply feel we are not setup to deal with individuals with these very serious mental health conditions..
Members may not be take, fill, have in their possession, or otherwise be around any medications with potential for abuse. While we do allow antidepressants, we draw the line there and do not allow mental health medications such as anti-psychotics, anti-schizophrenic medications, etc. We feel our first priority is to maintain a sober house with the best overall quality, the lowest level of "drama", and lowest chance of incident. Therefore, we simply feel we are not setup to deal with individuals with these very serious mental health conditions..
I have to go to a meeting per day when I first move in?
Correct, all "Phase 1" members must attend a minimum of 7 meetings per week. This is not nearly as difficult as it sounds. In fact, AA recommends 90 meetings in 90 days and most new members attend more than that in the beginning. Some attend as high as 15 per week because they receive so much out of them. With that said, the higher the phase you are, the fewer the meetings are required. For example "Phase 5" requires 3 meeting per week.
Correct, all "Phase 1" members must attend a minimum of 7 meetings per week. This is not nearly as difficult as it sounds. In fact, AA recommends 90 meetings in 90 days and most new members attend more than that in the beginning. Some attend as high as 15 per week because they receive so much out of them. With that said, the higher the phase you are, the fewer the meetings are required. For example "Phase 5" requires 3 meeting per week.
Vehicles: Can I have a car? What if I don't have a car?
Yes, you are allowed to keep one vehicle at the house provided it runs, has insurance, and is street legal.
For those without vehicles, don't worry. Most people don't have one when they first enter. That is why our homes are specifically within walking distance of daily 12 Step meetings, plenty of job opportunities, and public transportation. Plus, we reward house members who offer rides to other members with reward points which they can spend on obtaining various privledges.
Yes, you are allowed to keep one vehicle at the house provided it runs, has insurance, and is street legal.
For those without vehicles, don't worry. Most people don't have one when they first enter. That is why our homes are specifically within walking distance of daily 12 Step meetings, plenty of job opportunities, and public transportation. Plus, we reward house members who offer rides to other members with reward points which they can spend on obtaining various privledges.
What happens if I can't afford to pay on time?
Unless you are receiving pre-authorized financial assistance from the house, then you will be charged a late fee of $3/day. If your late payments are chronic, then the consequence may be altered by house management as they see fit.
Unless you are receiving pre-authorized financial assistance from the house, then you will be charged a late fee of $3/day. If your late payments are chronic, then the consequence may be altered by house management as they see fit.
What do I need to bring with me?
Members must provide their own food, clothing, and toiletries. They will be given dedicated dry and refrigerated space for their food. For other personal items, members generally will have about enough space for 2 large suitcases worth of possessions. And keep in mind that we provide all the other basic necessities, so please visit our What's Included page to help you decide what you want to bring.
Members must provide their own food, clothing, and toiletries. They will be given dedicated dry and refrigerated space for their food. For other personal items, members generally will have about enough space for 2 large suitcases worth of possessions. And keep in mind that we provide all the other basic necessities, so please visit our What's Included page to help you decide what you want to bring.
Are there house managers? Or does everyone manage themselves?
Yes, there are house managers. However, members are expected to require little managment. We are not a rehabilitation center. We are sober living. Therefore our members are expected to follow house rules and jumpstart their lives without having to be prodded to do it. So while we do have house managers as well as a staff manager. Their job is to keep the shipping running smooth, make sure the house remains healthy. Our staff manager has 20 years of continuous sobriety, 13 years experience owing/operating single and multi-family rental properties, as well as 4 years of operating sober living housing.
Yes, there are house managers. However, members are expected to require little managment. We are not a rehabilitation center. We are sober living. Therefore our members are expected to follow house rules and jumpstart their lives without having to be prodded to do it. So while we do have house managers as well as a staff manager. Their job is to keep the shipping running smooth, make sure the house remains healthy. Our staff manager has 20 years of continuous sobriety, 13 years experience owing/operating single and multi-family rental properties, as well as 4 years of operating sober living housing.
Are you a treatment center? Do you provide counseling?
While we do provide a familial structured sober living environment to our members that is based on the 12 steps, we are NOT a treatment or medical center, nor do we provide any professional counseling or other similar services. We simply offer a way of life for individuals who wish to have the best chance of remaining sober when jump starting their life again.
While we do provide a familial structured sober living environment to our members that is based on the 12 steps, we are NOT a treatment or medical center, nor do we provide any professional counseling or other similar services. We simply offer a way of life for individuals who wish to have the best chance of remaining sober when jump starting their life again.
Do I have to work? If so, can I move in without a job?
Yes and Yes. Every member is required to work a minimum of 30 hours per week whether that be a traditional job, schooling, or some form of volunteerism. We want people to stay active vs. watching TV all day.
If you don't have a job when you first move in, that's alright. However, you will be expected to work 40 hours per week finding a job as well as updating house management throughout the day on your progress.
Yes and Yes. Every member is required to work a minimum of 30 hours per week whether that be a traditional job, schooling, or some form of volunteerism. We want people to stay active vs. watching TV all day.
If you don't have a job when you first move in, that's alright. However, you will be expected to work 40 hours per week finding a job as well as updating house management throughout the day on your progress.
How long can I live in an Into Action house?
As long as you like, provided you adhere to Into Action house requirements.
As long as you like, provided you adhere to Into Action house requirements.
What is the least amount of time I should stay in sober living?
If we had to put a specific 'amount of time' on it, then on average that would be 1 year. With that said, we require newer members to build a well thought out and detailed goals sheet based on "What do I need to accomplish before moving out of sober living." Then, once that list is complete, they know that they can move out under wise conditions. House management, must approve the goals list in order to ensure it is well thought out.
If we had to put a specific 'amount of time' on it, then on average that would be 1 year. With that said, we require newer members to build a well thought out and detailed goals sheet based on "What do I need to accomplish before moving out of sober living." Then, once that list is complete, they know that they can move out under wise conditions. House management, must approve the goals list in order to ensure it is well thought out.
What if I relapse?
Some sober livings have the policy that if someone relapses, they may "go away for a few days and come back" or may even ignore it until it becomes a problem. Our feeling is that this does nothing but promotes relapsing. Therefore if you relapse, your membership will be immediately revoked and will forced to leave. We are a "one shot" facility.
Some sober livings have the policy that if someone relapses, they may "go away for a few days and come back" or may even ignore it until it becomes a problem. Our feeling is that this does nothing but promotes relapsing. Therefore if you relapse, your membership will be immediately revoked and will forced to leave. We are a "one shot" facility.
I have a court case or was referred to a sober living by my parole/probation office, is Into Action willing to work with my parole officer?
Absolutely! In fact, we prefer it. We also provide court reports as needed.
Absolutely! In fact, we prefer it. We also provide court reports as needed.
Will there be dangerous people living in the house?
To help ensure the safety and security of all members, we have a Safe Housemate policy in which we run a background check on all applicants prior to them moving in. In order to promote the highest level of safety and security, we screen out those with violent, sexual, and arson based felony convictions. When it comes to sexual and arson based crimes, there is no room for negotiation. We simply don't allow it. When it comes to violent crimes, we do understand there is a difference between "I pushed someone down in a bar one night when I was drunk" and "I stabbed someone". Yet, both may be considered violent felony based crimes. Therefore, when the 'violent' conviction is well within the "pushed someone down" arena, we leave that person's membership acceptance decision to a house vote.
To help ensure the safety and security of all members, we have a Safe Housemate policy in which we run a background check on all applicants prior to them moving in. In order to promote the highest level of safety and security, we screen out those with violent, sexual, and arson based felony convictions. When it comes to sexual and arson based crimes, there is no room for negotiation. We simply don't allow it. When it comes to violent crimes, we do understand there is a difference between "I pushed someone down in a bar one night when I was drunk" and "I stabbed someone". Yet, both may be considered violent felony based crimes. Therefore, when the 'violent' conviction is well within the "pushed someone down" arena, we leave that person's membership acceptance decision to a house vote.
Would I be considered a “Tenant”?
No. You are a member, not a tenant. As an alcoholic/addict you are considered legally disabled under federal law provided that you are remaining abstinent. As such, you may freely choose to live somewhere that assists with your disability. That, combined with an exclusions clause included in the Oklahoma Residential Landlord and Tenant Act, you are not legally considered "tenants" and therefore do not have the same rights as a tenant. (For example, we do not need to go through an eviction in order to have a member removed as your presence could be a danger to other members.)
No. You are a member, not a tenant. As an alcoholic/addict you are considered legally disabled under federal law provided that you are remaining abstinent. As such, you may freely choose to live somewhere that assists with your disability. That, combined with an exclusions clause included in the Oklahoma Residential Landlord and Tenant Act, you are not legally considered "tenants" and therefore do not have the same rights as a tenant. (For example, we do not need to go through an eviction in order to have a member removed as your presence could be a danger to other members.)
Are women or kids allowed to live in Action House? How about visitors staying overnight?
Into Action only has men-only sober living. So no women or kids housing is available at this time. As for visitors, your ability to have visitors come to the house depends on your Phase. But regardless of what Phase you are on, you will not be allowed to have overnight guests. Nor will you be allowed to have female guests anywhere except common areas. All members have roommates and we don't feel it's proper and that it would be rather awkward for the roommate for the other roommate to have a girlfriend spending the night in the same room.
Into Action only has men-only sober living. So no women or kids housing is available at this time. As for visitors, your ability to have visitors come to the house depends on your Phase. But regardless of what Phase you are on, you will not be allowed to have overnight guests. Nor will you be allowed to have female guests anywhere except common areas. All members have roommates and we don't feel it's proper and that it would be rather awkward for the roommate for the other roommate to have a girlfriend spending the night in the same room.
What is the Safe Housemate policy / Background check about?
Why does Into Action do this?
If I have a spotty past, should I be worried about wasting the money it costs to run the check?
How much does it cost?
Many sober living houses in OKC perform no background checks. Therefore no one knows anything about the people living in the house, whether they're safe, etc. Into Action strives to provide a safe home for everyone who lives or may come to live in Action House. To help achieve this, we run thorough background checks on all House Guests prior to entry. Have a spotty past? Don’t worry. We expect it. After all, we’re an alcoholics/addicts right? That is why we do not run the check until we are sure that, based upon your interview, you will be approved. So provided you were honest in your interview, and assuming we've deemed your application acceptable, then there should be no reason why you will be turned down after we run the background check. Therefore, you aren't risking losing any money on the background check.
The check costs us $30 to run. Therefore we charge $30 to the applicant. This fee must be paid in advance as we cannot afford to chance paying for this ourselves should someone have lied on their app and then left us with the background check bill.
Why does Into Action do this?
If I have a spotty past, should I be worried about wasting the money it costs to run the check?
How much does it cost?
Many sober living houses in OKC perform no background checks. Therefore no one knows anything about the people living in the house, whether they're safe, etc. Into Action strives to provide a safe home for everyone who lives or may come to live in Action House. To help achieve this, we run thorough background checks on all House Guests prior to entry. Have a spotty past? Don’t worry. We expect it. After all, we’re an alcoholics/addicts right? That is why we do not run the check until we are sure that, based upon your interview, you will be approved. So provided you were honest in your interview, and assuming we've deemed your application acceptable, then there should be no reason why you will be turned down after we run the background check. Therefore, you aren't risking losing any money on the background check.
The check costs us $30 to run. Therefore we charge $30 to the applicant. This fee must be paid in advance as we cannot afford to chance paying for this ourselves should someone have lied on their app and then left us with the background check bill.
What is expected of me once I am there?
Recovery is our first priority. If you don't stay clean, sober, and into action, you don't stay – it’s that simple. Beyond that,
- Actively maintain and participate in a 12-step based recovery program by attending meetings.
- Maintain a sponsor/sponsee relationship.
- Work the steps.
- Have a job.
- Submit to random drug testing.
- Remain current with weekly lodging fee.
- Follow the rules.
- Complete daily household chores.
- Have a good attitude.
Recovery is our first priority. If you don't stay clean, sober, and into action, you don't stay – it’s that simple. Beyond that,
- Actively maintain and participate in a 12-step based recovery program by attending meetings.
- Maintain a sponsor/sponsee relationship.
- Work the steps.
- Have a job.
- Submit to random drug testing.
- Remain current with weekly lodging fee.
- Follow the rules.
- Complete daily household chores.
- Have a good attitude.
Do I have to go to treatment or detox before being accepted?
No. Treatment or other programs are not a direct prerequisite. However, we also do not act as a detox or treatment facility. So if you've been using recently you will likely not be accepted until your out of danger of going through withdrawals or until you go through detox.
No. Treatment or other programs are not a direct prerequisite. However, we also do not act as a detox or treatment facility. So if you've been using recently you will likely not be accepted until your out of danger of going through withdrawals or until you go through detox.
What's the curfew for Action House residents?
Our goal is to transition individuals to making their own decisions and is based upon a "Phase System". For example, Phase 1 members have a 10pm curfew. Whereas the curfew at Phase 5 is 2am. At the same time, that does NOT mean that a Phase 5 can stay out till 2am every night. Rather, it means that because you've been making good, trustworthy, and wise decisions for some time, that you will be trusted with the freedom to occasionally stay out late if you desire provided you're remaining accountable.
Jobs / Curfews: We are a daytime house and therefore don't want everyone sleeping during the night except for one guy who sleeps all day. It just doesn't work out well. So you will be expected to obtain a job that gets you BACK TO THE HOUSE BEFORE midnight, REGARDLESS of what Phase you are.
Our goal is to transition individuals to making their own decisions and is based upon a "Phase System". For example, Phase 1 members have a 10pm curfew. Whereas the curfew at Phase 5 is 2am. At the same time, that does NOT mean that a Phase 5 can stay out till 2am every night. Rather, it means that because you've been making good, trustworthy, and wise decisions for some time, that you will be trusted with the freedom to occasionally stay out late if you desire provided you're remaining accountable.
Jobs / Curfews: We are a daytime house and therefore don't want everyone sleeping during the night except for one guy who sleeps all day. It just doesn't work out well. So you will be expected to obtain a job that gets you BACK TO THE HOUSE BEFORE midnight, REGARDLESS of what Phase you are.
Can I stay away from the house overnight?
Overnight passes are allowed for those who are at a qualifying Phase level.
Overnight passes are allowed for those who are at a qualifying Phase level.
Can I have visitors?
Yes, but the restrictions (or lack of restrictions) are based upon your Phase level.
Yes, but the restrictions (or lack of restrictions) are based upon your Phase level.
Are telephones allowed?
They are not only allowed, but are actually required. Photo based texting is our primary method for holding new members accountable. Therefore, you must have a phone with a data plan. If you do not have a telephone, we will help direct you on how to obtain a government issued cell phone, but you will still be responsible for making sure you have the appropriate amount of data on the phone in order to be able to send photo texts as required by house management.
They are not only allowed, but are actually required. Photo based texting is our primary method for holding new members accountable. Therefore, you must have a phone with a data plan. If you do not have a telephone, we will help direct you on how to obtain a government issued cell phone, but you will still be responsible for making sure you have the appropriate amount of data on the phone in order to be able to send photo texts as required by house management.
Do you provide TV / Computer / Internet?
Yes, yes, and yes! We provide everything from hi speed wi-fi, to Roku and Playstations which provides over 1500 channels including Netflix, Amazon Prime, and HBO (which we pay for all three). For more information, please see our Ammenities page.
Yes, yes, and yes! We provide everything from hi speed wi-fi, to Roku and Playstations which provides over 1500 channels including Netflix, Amazon Prime, and HBO (which we pay for all three). For more information, please see our Ammenities page.
Tell me a little more about your drug testing policies.
Unfortunately most sober living homes do not test regularly (if they test at all). If they do some testing, they often only use 5 or 8 panel tests.
Into Action Sober Living not only tests everyone in the house at least once per week (including house managers so that no one is "above the law", but our tests are 14 panel tests. We also perform random breathalyzers throughout the week. Further, we are an "at will" testing house. That means that ANY member, regardless of Phase, may test ANY other member, including testing house managers. If anyone refuses to test immediately at the time of request, then they are instantly terminated.
Unfortunately most sober living homes do not test regularly (if they test at all). If they do some testing, they often only use 5 or 8 panel tests.
Into Action Sober Living not only tests everyone in the house at least once per week (including house managers so that no one is "above the law", but our tests are 14 panel tests. We also perform random breathalyzers throughout the week. Further, we are an "at will" testing house. That means that ANY member, regardless of Phase, may test ANY other member, including testing house managers. If anyone refuses to test immediately at the time of request, then they are instantly terminated.
Will I have a room mate? / Are their private rooms?
Yes, all new members will have a room mate. Private rooms are reserved for house managers and those who are doing especially well.
Yes, all new members will have a room mate. Private rooms are reserved for house managers and those who are doing especially well.
Are past Into Action Alumni able to visit Action House Sober Living after they move out?
Yes, but only if they have stayed active and in touch with the house and have remained sober. For those people, it is highly encouraged.
Yes, but only if they have stayed active and in touch with the house and have remained sober. For those people, it is highly encouraged.
What is a "phase" / "phase system" ?
Into Action does not base merit on the amount of time one has been a member. Rather, it is based on action! As such, we have a 5 level phase system which grants new privileges (and in some case responsibilities) for those who have accomplished the items neccesary to advance to a higher phase.
The "big" limitations of Phase 1 are the following:
- 10 PM curfew
- Must go to a minimum of seven meetings per week.
- Must have a sponsor within one week of moving in and be using that sponsor a minimum of 4 times per week.
- No visitors allowed other than approved immediate family. (Approved wives, kids, etc.)
- You will not receive the codes to the television or wi-fi until Phase 2.
How do I phase up?
For the most part, a member phases up by working the 12 steps and doing a Big Book study (The "Big Book" is the primary text book used in 12 step meetings.
Here is an example of the requirements to phase up from Phase 1 to Phase 2:
- Must listen to an audio based Big Book study from the beginning through Step 3.
- Must complete steps 1 - 3 with a sponsor.
- Must receive approval from house manager for a written goals list.
- Must have a job.
How do I phase up and what are the benefits?
The lower the phase, the higher the structure and accountability. The higher the phase, the more freedom, trust, and privilege a member enjoys. Our philosophy is that the steps is where the "magic" happens. So a person phases up primarily through working the 12 steps. So as they work more steps they mature more spiritually. As they mature more spiritually, they are ready to make more of their own decisions. Eventually leading to them being ready to move out on their own.w
Example Comparing Phase 1 to Phase 5
PHASE 1 LIMITATIONS:
Actions required to move to Phase 2:
- Have a job.
- Listen to Big Book study from the beginning through Step 3
- Work steps 1-3 with a sponsor.
- Not be under any house restrictions or house demerits.
COMPARE TO PHASE 5
Verified actions required to remain at Phase 5
Into Action does not base merit on the amount of time one has been a member. Rather, it is based on action! As such, we have a 5 level phase system which grants new privileges (and in some case responsibilities) for those who have accomplished the items neccesary to advance to a higher phase.
The "big" limitations of Phase 1 are the following:
- 10 PM curfew
- Must go to a minimum of seven meetings per week.
- Must have a sponsor within one week of moving in and be using that sponsor a minimum of 4 times per week.
- No visitors allowed other than approved immediate family. (Approved wives, kids, etc.)
- You will not receive the codes to the television or wi-fi until Phase 2.
How do I phase up?
For the most part, a member phases up by working the 12 steps and doing a Big Book study (The "Big Book" is the primary text book used in 12 step meetings.
Here is an example of the requirements to phase up from Phase 1 to Phase 2:
- Must listen to an audio based Big Book study from the beginning through Step 3.
- Must complete steps 1 - 3 with a sponsor.
- Must receive approval from house manager for a written goals list.
- Must have a job.
How do I phase up and what are the benefits?
The lower the phase, the higher the structure and accountability. The higher the phase, the more freedom, trust, and privilege a member enjoys. Our philosophy is that the steps is where the "magic" happens. So a person phases up primarily through working the 12 steps. So as they work more steps they mature more spiritually. As they mature more spiritually, they are ready to make more of their own decisions. Eventually leading to them being ready to move out on their own.w
Example Comparing Phase 1 to Phase 5
PHASE 1 LIMITATIONS:
- House Votes: The group will hear your input, but you will not have a house vote.
- May use TV/Wifi/Computer when a higher phase is present, but does not receive codes to these items until Phase 2.
- No visitors except approved immediate family.
- No overnight passes.
- Curfew: 10pm
- Must follow instructions provided by higher phased members. (if you feel an instruction is not proper, see the house manager)
- Must attend 7 meetings per week.
- Must have a sponsor within 1 week of moving in.
- Must have a job or work full time finding a job.
- No choice in which room you will stay in.
- Will update activities throughout the day until house manager removes this requirement.
Actions required to move to Phase 2:
- Have a job.
- Listen to Big Book study from the beginning through Step 3
- Work steps 1-3 with a sponsor.
- Not be under any house restrictions or house demerits.
COMPARE TO PHASE 5
- Curfew: 2am when used in a responsible and accountable way.
- May have female house visitors even when no other member is present (but only in common areas).
- Has authority (and responsibility) to hand out between 1 to 5 points as reward or demerits as discipline as you see fit.
- Overnight Pass: 2 per week. May save up to 6 days worth. (must use accountability plan if gone for more than 1 night.)
- 3 meetings per week minimum.
- Special considerations / requests / favors may be approved for those who are specifically going above and beyond.
Verified actions required to remain at Phase 5
- Consistently
- Reading recovery literature.
- Working with sponsor.
- Progressing on your 9th Step.
- Progressing on steps 10-12. *Step 10 shall include a regular written inventory (not just "mental" ones).